How To Write Your Wedding Vows Your Own | Jubilee Weddings and Event
- Delphine Jespersen
- 7 days ago
- 3 min read
Writing your own wedding vows can feel like a big task, but it’s one of the most meaningful ways to personalize your wedding ceremony and make it truly unforgettable. As a Seattle wedding planner who has witnessed hundreds of “I do” moments, we know how special it is when couples add their own words to the day.
If speaking your vows aloud during your wedding ceremony isn’t something that you and your partner decide on, that’s perfectly okay! We still recommend writing down your vows in a special notebook or piece of paper to give to your partner either privately on the wedding day or for a future anniversary. It’s romantic, personal, and a beautiful way to add individuality and personal flair.
Here are a few key tips from our Jubilee Weddings and Events team to help you create heartfelt, personalized vowsthat reflect your unique love story:
Reflect on your relationship. Think about the journey. Start by thinking about your relationship. When did you first meet? What were the moments that made you fall deeper in love? Reflect on the small and big things that make your connection special. Then consider your partner. What is it about your partner that makes you love them? What qualities do you admire in them? These reflections can help ground your vows in the things that matter most.
Decide the tone. Do you want your vows to be romantic, humorous, spiritual, traditional, or a mix? The tone should reflect your personality and the kind of couple you are. You can even balance lightheartedness with sincerity. It’s important that your vows feel like you.
Set the structure. Many vows begin with an expression of commitment. Phrases like “I promise to love you,” or “I vow to stand by you…” are traditional ways to start, but feel free to get creative with how you introduce your promises. Make a few key promises. Think about the aspects of your relationship that matter most and include promises around them. Promise to: Support and encourage them. Stand by them in good times and bad. Be patient, understanding, and kind. Love them unconditionally. Then end with something personal. Your closing lines can be a powerful way to end your vows, perhaps something poetic or a personal sentiment that ties back to your journey together.
Add specifics that reflect on your life and your partners. Make your vows personal by mentioning specific moments or memories that shaped your relationship. A reference to a shared adventure, a joke only the two of you get, or something meaningful to both of you can make your vows more intimate. You could even reference what you're excited about in the future, mentioning things like dreams, goals, or adventures that you're looking forward to as a couple.
And lastly, be true to your heart and keep it authentic. Your vows don’t need to follow any set formula. The most important thing is that they reflect who you are as individuals and as a couple. Don’t stress about perfection—honesty and heart will shine through.
It’s okay to feel nervous about writing them, but remember, your partner will appreciate the effort and thoughtfulness. Vows are only about you and between you so follow your heart and pour out all of your love. Whether you choose to share your vows in front of all your family and friends or confide in each other in a more private, sentimental moment, we promise that personalized vows will create a memory that will last a lifetime.
At Jubilee Weddings and Events, we love helping couples throughout Washington State create meaningful, unforgettable celebrations. If you’re looking for a Seattle wedding planner or wedding coordinator in Washington, we’d love to help you design a ceremony that feels like you.
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